I think one of the biggest challenges in writing for this blog has been consistency. Writing is something of a sacred act for me. It helps me understand myself in ways nothing else can and for that reason, it can be difficult to keep up with it when I have an audience in mind. Inspiration may not always strike when I want it to but that’s no reason not to serialize my writing and use it to build something even more meaningful. In effort to be more consistent with my posts, I’d like to introduce you to my very first series: Style Bootcamp.
Before I get into the real announcement, I’d like to start this off by saying that I’ve been a terrible fashion blogger. It’s difficult for me to put my love for fashion into words because, quite frankly, it overwhelms me. Despite my creativity and somewhat free spirited nature, I like to keep the things in my head in boxes. When it comes to defining who I am, I’m very “all or nothing” about it. My desire for knowledge and sharp attention to detail makes me a bit of a purist when it comes to fashion. So much so, that my love for one thing often feels like a renunciation of another.
Continue reading “Style Bootcamp Intro: A Fresh Start to Looking My Best”
I’m reaching a bit far into the past with this one (4+ years), so if you’re looking for something trendy, please heed this warning that there will be nothing timely about this post. It’s just something I think about often, built by someone I look up to greatly, that I want to talk about. So here’s my old news for the day. Grab a coffee, a little sunshine soaked disposition, and lets dive in.
Blake Lively is, by far, one of my favorite actresses. Not only a force of fashion, she’s the biggest reason I want to pursue acting again, something I once wrote off as impractical and out of my reach. In high school, I LOVED theatre. Although I wasn’t the most practiced or the most talented, it made me happy, so happy that I honestly can’t remember a moment in that theatre I didn’t completely accept. I WANTED to be there. At one point, my friends and I even stopped eating in the cafeteria to have our lunch at the back entrance of the theatre we loved it that much. It was our open field of freedom and creativity at the edges of a crazy kingdom called “high school.”
Wanting, wholeheartedly, to be somewhere is something that has escaped me lately. These days, every fiber in my being desires to be elsewhere: on my grandma’s deck in mid-July, in a New York City hotel with my boyfriend, in California for the first time, in my old car, in my best friend’s pool when we were kids, in a brand new dress on a yacht in Europe (specific 🤨), backstage whispering on that small stage, and sometimes even on a red carpet (a bit far-fetched, I KNOW OKAY).
Continue reading “A Bit About the Past: Blake Lively’s “Preserve Failure” and What It Means to Me”
Last we spoke, I mentioned briefly that I found my own apartment. Since everything went pretty well, I’m happy to say that I’m sitting at my own kitchen table, in my very first apartment, writing this. However, I’m at a loss for words to describe what living in my own home has taught me about the world because it all seems like a jumbled mess when I look back on it.
For lack of a better way to put it, the past month and a half have truly been “the best of times” and “the worst of times” all at once (thanks, Dickens). It’s as if I can see all the good and bad moments pieced together overhead, aware that after each dip is a rise and each peak, a fall. And to be totally honest, it’s giving me anxiety just learning how to cope with what “adults” know is normal. It sounds kind of pathetic on “paper” but sometimes I just want life to be consistent so I can categorize it as something, wrap my brain around it for once. If it’s good, be good for a while. If it’s bad, be bad for a while. In life, the rollercoaster is not my cup of tea (which reminds me, I left my now very cold tea in the microwave 🙄) especially since I’m almost certain I’m wired to see the dips and falls a whole lot more clearly than the triumphant peaks.
I wouldn’t say highlighting those falls is a result of me being pessimistic. In fact, I’d argue that I’m fatalistically positive. Like so-positive-that-I-set-myself-up-for-disappointment-positive. Tonight, I realized why that is and as many of you know, writing is what I do when I realize stuff so here it is.
Continue reading “We All Grow Up (Eventually)”
I’m keeping this post short and sweet. You’ll see why when you read it. 😊
A LOT is happening in my life right now. I found my own apartment, my responsibilities at work are increasing, and I’m slowly finding my place in the world. To say the least, it’s all very overwhelming. Good but total chaos. And… I’m the type of person who doesn’t handle overwhelm very well. When things are difficult, I withdraw. I get tired. I reject myself and I think a lot. Instead of getting up and doing the stuff, I try to think my way around it and it’s exhausting.
For someone who doesn’t handle overwhelm very well, I certainly create a lot of it for myself. Not only do I have trouble quieting the incessant thoughts in my head, I let things get out of hand because I don’t have the habits to support my lifestyle. And when things go wrong (like when I wake up late for the fourth time in one week), I put myself down instead of picking myself back up and starting over.
Let’s face it. Life only gets busier the more connected we become and it’s difficult to slow down long enough to not only forgive ourselves for making mistakes, but also to create new habits to avoid burnout in the future.
Life-making is hard (did I make that word up?) but I’m slowly understanding that positive habits make it easy. Habits are the day-to-day “hacks” we build into our schedule that make us feel like we can accomplish what we set out to do. As I’m moving into 2019 (😂), here’s the foundation I’ll be building my habits on so I can reach my goals this year.
Continue reading “What’s On My Mind: Habits”
Wow… I confess. It’s been quite a while since I paid this blog any attention. Although I’m disappointed I wasn’t able to live up to the expectations I have for this blog, I’m happy and grateful for the clarity I gained on how technology is impacting my life during my unintentional break. Over the past two months, I started a challenging new job, learned how to better cope with problems in my personal life, made new friends, laughed longer and louder than I have in LONG time, and established more financial freedom for myself. To say the least, it’s been a great month. Easy in some ways, difficult in others. I’ve learned a lot and feel pretty confident heading into the new year.
However, I keep coming back to this idea that some of the challenges I am facing now are new to us. I often look at my life and marvel at how drastically the way we live and communicate has changed due to the introduction of technology. When something challenges me, I find myself saying “wow, this wouldn’t have been a problem 30 some years ago.”
Continue reading “Modern Problems: Reflecting on How Technology Has Changed Our Lives”
One thing technology has definitely changed is romance and dating. We no longer wait days or weeks to talk to someone. With cell phones, everyone is always available. Portable phone technology has changed how we communicate with each other and has drastically altered our expectations for our relationships. Because everyone is “always” on and available to talk, we expect our relationships to move quickly and satisfy us around the clock. Texting has become one of the most widely used forms of communication and technology is only making people more and more accessible to each other. We crave immediate communication and use it to measure our level of fulfillment because that’s what’s normal.
If you grew up with technology like I did, it’s sometimes difficult to put how we communicate with each other into perspective. Flirting via text message is commonplace for us; communicating often and daily with your significant other is expected. We know of no other way. However, I think it’s important to remain self-aware of how our behavior is changing due to technology and how it can deteriorate our relationships. It’s not enough to mindlessly use our devices and let our new expectations run/ruin our lives.
When we go through difficulties in our relationships, these strange new expectations become glaringly obvious. Every moment staring at the phone feels like a lifetime. We expect change, forgiveness, and love immediately because that’s how we communicate. As we adapt to the new world, we have to see technology for the tool that it is and use it mindfully to support and nourish our relationships. So on that note, here’s a few things to consider as you navigate a rough patch with your significant other in the digital world. Continue reading “Love in the Digital World: How to Make it Through a Rough Patch in Your Relationship in 2018”
This week, I started a new job in a line of work I know very little about. To say I wasn’t nervous would be a gross misrepresentation of how I was feeling and a big discredit to the reality of the human experience. I think we all come across nervousness or anxiety when making a big change in our lives. However, not all of us know how to prepare for it. Although we take comfort in knowing that others have many of the same emotions when starting a new career, we are seldom given the tips we need to navigate uncertainty. Here are five tips I put together after reflecting on my first week to help you put your new role into perspective and find personal success. Knowing these tips heading in could save you from abandoning a perfectly good opportunity or fearing change so much you don’t learn or grow from your new job.
1. Seize the Opportunity to Learn
Getting a new job, especially one in a different field, is the perfect opportunity to learn new skills and develop a more diversified network. If you approach the experience as one of learning rather than stress and uncertainty, the world becomes your oyster. In some cases, we are pushed to take and stay in positions out of necessity and fear for the wellbeing of our families. This fear can make it difficult to see how blessed we are to have these learning experiences. So if you can put these fears aside, focus on the work, and seize the opportunity to learn something new, you will be better equipped to find great success regardless of where life takes you next. Continue reading “Starting a New Job? 5 Tips to Follow to Maximize Personal Success”