A Quick Start Guide to Falling in Love Again ๐Ÿ’•

If it isn’t obvious by now, my new niche is about finding love, building better relationships, and leading a romantic and spirited lifestyle that supports both efforts. I believe that many of us are not equipped with the tools we need to love and be loved because the mechanics of how they should work are not always explained to us outright. It’s taken me A LOT of less-than-graceful learning experiences, therapy, and self-help books to recognize a deficit for these skills in my own life and I’d like this blog to reflect my journey in acquiring them.

I still have a long way to go towards understanding love and the human experience but I hope my stories of heartache and triumph reach you with compassion and connectedness. Words have the power to change our experience and my goal for this blog is to impact you and your relationships positively through loving words, thorough research, fun reads, and engaging imagery. I believe we are all deserving of fulfilling relationships and I recognize the responsibility that rests with both partners to achieve that.

So to kick off this effort, Iโ€™m sharing my Quick Start Guide to Falling In Love Again because sometimes you have to put yourself in a new mindset to really appreciate the people around you. This guide speaks to, what I believe is, one of the greatest pleasures of being in a relationship: falling in love with the same person over and over and over again, despite your differences.

Here are 9 practices I recommend to quick start those good feelings youโ€™re looking for in your relationships, INCLUDING the relationship you have with yourself and your life (more on that to come). Never stop falling in love… ๐Ÿ’‹

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BLOSSOM ๐ŸŒธ

What a stupid bug, trying to climb into the socket holes. The hot air moves inward and the heat in the house is sticky. I’m in need of an air conditioner and if we’re honest, a bit of free time to get my domestic affairs in order. But the weeks carry on and the weird days get weirder. As the sticky air gets stickier, the heat of Summer becomes a reality. Ugh.

There comes a time when you have to let go. You look around at all the ways you’ve tried to rectify your life and they just look futile and depressing. Actions you took out of hope haunt you and the potential of loss becomes real. In the face of despair, you see something clearly: what worked for your life before, doesn’t work anymore. It seems, as the heat weighs in, that this thought will color my Summer.

Weird days and heartaches, I’ve found, are our opportunities for growth. We can choose to transcend our past or we can become bound by it. We can forgive and take responsibility for how we’ve affected others or we can demand others suffer as much as we have in repayment for our heartache. We can blossom or we can drown. We can drag people under with us or we can love and elevate them in light of our suffering.

I never know if I’m making the right choice. But quite frankly, none of us do. It’s one of those similarities we hate to admit connects us. No one has all the answers, yet we judge and divide. We make “us” right and the “other” wrong. We make people pay the price for their mistakes a million times over, in ways we don’t even expect from ourselves. We defend, we justify, we create enemies. We forget we are all the same, our differences merely man-made. We neglect to recognize how similar we truly are, how capable every single one of us is to hurt and be hurt. No one knows what the right choices are and we all gamble. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

It might not seem like this on our weird days but I believe life favors love. Gamble enough times and it will come to the surface, whole and new as it always is. Love never leaves; it simply waits in the shadows to be embraced and understood. But too often, we ignore it and we gamble with heartache. We make choices we aren’t proud of and pray that they produce the results we are looking. We all pray for love but we harbor hatred and hurt feelings.

When we gamble with love, there’s more at stake. We put our whole heart on the line, we air out our vulnerabilities, and hope that the person we love, will return the favor. We don’t gamble with love more often because we are afraid. We don’t choose to elevate the people that have hurt us because we feel weak. We don’t choose love because, in our darkest days, it seems futile and childish.

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Love in the Digital World: How to Make it Through a Rough Patch in Your Relationship in 2018

One thing technology has definitely changed is romance and dating. We no longer wait days or weeks to talk to someone. With cell phones, everyone is always available. Portable phone technology has changed how we communicate with each other and has drastically altered our expectations for our relationships. Because everyone is “always” on and available to talk, we expect our relationships to move quickly and satisfy us around the clock. Texting has become one of the most widely used forms of communication and technology is only making people more and more accessible to each other. We crave immediate communication and use it to measure our level of fulfillment because that’s what’s normal.

If you grew up with technology like I did, it’s sometimes difficult to put how we communicate with each other into perspective. Flirting via text message is commonplace for us; communicating often and daily with your significant other is expected. We know of no other way. However, I think it’s important to remain self-aware of how our behavior is changing due to technology and how it can deteriorate our relationships. It’s not enough to mindlessly use our devices and let our new expectations run/ruin our lives.

When we go through difficulties in our relationships, these strange new expectations become glaringly obvious. Every moment staring at the phone feels like a lifetime. We expect change, forgiveness, and love immediately because that’s how we communicate. As we adapt to the new world, we have to see technology for the tool that it is and use it mindfully to support and nourish our relationships. So on that note, here’s a few things to consider as you navigate a rough patch with your significant other in the digital world. Continue reading “Love in the Digital World: How to Make it Through a Rough Patch in Your Relationship in 2018”